1. Surrender to the Lordship of Christ Daily Every marriage begins with how a man orders his own heart. Surrender isn’t a one-time prayer; it’s a daily act of humility where you lay down pride, selfish ambition, and control. When a husband wakes up and says, “Jesus, today I give You my thoughts, my actions, and my love,” he becomes anchored. A man surrendered to Christ will never lead his marriage from ego, but from the overflow of God’s love. 2. Tell the Truth About Your Fears and FeelingsHonesty isn’t weakness—it’s strength. Many husbands try to carry the weight of their fears in silence, but unspoken fears erode intimacy. Telling your wife, “I feel anxious about providing for us,” or “I’m afraid of failing you,” builds trust instead of distance. Vulnerability disarms shame and opens the door to deeper connection. 3. Listen and Respond to His Leadership EverydayPrayer isn’t just talking; it’s listening. As a husband, you’re not the ultimate leader—Christ is. Developing the discipline of listening through Scripture, prayer, and silence trains you to recognize His whispers. Sometimes His leadership will be about loving your wife sacrificially; other times, about patience in conflict. Obedience in small daily steps builds long-term faithfulness. 4. Attach Your Thoughts to the Mind and Spirit of ChristA flourishing marriage is fought for in the thought life. Every husband must guard against resentment, comparison, and lust. Paul reminds us to “take every thought captive.” That means replacing destructive narratives (“She doesn’t appreciate me”) with truth (“I am called to love her as Christ loves the Church”). What fills your mind shapes your marriage. 5. Strengthen Your Physical Body for Wellness and ProtectionYour wife longs for a husband who has energy, vitality, and strength to both enjoy life and protect her. Stewarding your body—through exercise, nutrition, and rest—is not vanity, but an act of love. A strong body supports emotional resilience and shows your wife you are committed to being present for the long haul. 6. Serve Your Wife with Words and Actions That Capture Her HeartLove is a verb. Service isn’t only fixing things around the house; it’s choosing intentional words and thoughtful gestures. Write her a note. Hold her hand. Do the dishes without being asked. Speak words of blessing over her identity. Every act of service says, “You matter more than me.” Over time, these small deposits compound into deep intimacy. 7. Protect Your Sleep by Turning Off Screens and Going to Bed TogetherA simple yet powerful rhythm: guard your rest. Late-night scrolling or work emails rob a marriage of presence and connection. When you choose to turn off screens and lay down together, you’re saying, “I prioritize our union over distraction.” Shared rest fosters closeness and creates natural opportunities for intimacy, prayer, and conversation. These disciplines are not legalistic rules, but life-giving rhythms. Practiced daily, they become a framework for a marriage that flourishes with faith, intimacy, and resilience. Enjoy These Recent Articles: The Calloused Heart of High Achievers Coping Under the Mask of High Performer The Five Benefits of Scheduling Sexual Intimacy for Busy Executives Be Strong, Lantz Howard PS. I am scheduling one-day intensives for busy high achievers who are tired of grinding. Stop waiting to get your wife back and get the support you need with a one-day relationship intensive. We will work together to get emotionally unstuck and unlock inner greatness. Your wife will reconnect with you in passionate ways when you restore your God-given power and potential. Contact me now to schedule your day. Investment is $7500 if we meet in Dallas and $10000 if I come to you, plus travel expenses. Don't need an intensive? Book your 90-day relationship accelerator for almost half the price. |
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