Coping Under the Mask of High Performer


There is a generation of men seeking a mission.

This may be your wake-up call.

Last week, I finished an intensive with leaders in the Texas Hill Country who are choosing the narrow path—men willing to do their own soul work before mapping the strategy of their organization (we did both).

I am convinced that the leaders who embrace this hidden work will be the ones who lead with fresh imagination and resilient presence in the future.

For too long, this mission has been hidden beneath our modern comfort, selfish ambition, and coping under the mask of a high performer.

Before you charge off to save the world, slow down.

Do your own work first.

  • The work of forgiveness.
  • The work of inner healing from wounds.
  • The work of breaking agreements of your past.
  • The work of receiving the Abundant Love offered to you.

Ask yourself:

  • How are you loving your enemy in your own community?
  • When was the last time you went to your wife and said, “I was wrong, please forgive me?”
  • Can you share your story and articulate the healing you have received?
  • How are you fighting for the man in your community who needs hope?

Your mission starts within your heart.

Self-emptying will make space for more of what God has for you than what you could ever ask or imagine.

What if every man you knew lived their true identity? One that offered his own presence as a gift of transformation and healing.

Imagine a man on a mission who empties himself of self-protection and chooses a path of sacrifice and surrender so that others may know the abundant life that exists in True Love.

This type of man will embody Truth and Grace.

Truth that shares there is one hope and one faith.

Grace that shares there is room for one more at the table.

You want transformation.

Your wife is asking for peace.

Your organization is hungry for a new way.

May you have the strength to embody truth and grace.


Becoming Wholehearted by Lantz Howard

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