The Five Benefits of Scheduling Sexual Intimacy for Busy Executives


Attention, busy married CEO and high achievers: Marital drift begins with busy schedules. Don't be ashamed to schedule sexual intimacy with your spouse.

In fact, below are five benefits of doing just that.

There are seasons in life when it’s not only acceptable but wise to initiate intimacy by planning days ahead.

At a retreat my wife and I led, couples spent time clarifying what they each need right now to win. Essentially, we created a structured “cheat sheet” for one another. We call this the integrity of intimacy.

Be clear, authentic, and honest about what you need—and allow your spouse to respond. When you both know the plan, sexual intimacy doesn’t get left behind.

The truth is, marital drift often begins with busy schedules. One of the first things clients tell me? Sex gets pushed to the back burner because of exhaustion and a full calendar.


If you can plan a business meeting, schedule kids’ sports, and run errands, you can plan intimacy. Stop making excuses. It’s time to set a new standard.

Five benefits of scheduling sex:

Develops a deeper desire.
Creates greater anticipation.
Improves communication.
Lowers performance anxiety.
Asserting yourself is an act of clarity and love.

As John Eldredge reminds us: “Intimacy is what we were made for. Nothing less will ever touch our souls.”

Now that you have permission, text your spouse today and coordinate a time to make it happen.


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