Marriage Will Test Your Limits | Conroe, TX Marriage Workshop


A Mechanical Bull and Marriage Will Test Your Limits

I asked the operators if the mechanical bull was open for adults or only the teens.

Every man is always asking, “Do I have what it takes?” I knew this was my test for the day.

Moments later I had the Tim McGraw song in my head…”I went 2.7 seconds on a bull named…”

I grabbed the rope tightly and clamped my knees down. Then I felt the slight shift in my groin and knew immediately I had an injury. I kept riding so I would not be exposed. Instead I went another 12 seconds and was thrown off.

The only thing that makes you ready for bull riding is time on the bull.

The only thing that makes you ready for marriage is marriage.

Both will expose you of your limits and capacity.

We live in a world that struggle and failure is part of the story but instead it gets treated like threats to our identity.

Marriage is a powerful teacher for exposing our hearts, reminding us of our limits, and inviting us that we have the capacity to grow.

In the process we risk naming our fears and we step into the arena to ride a bull or take our marriage to the next level. On the other side is a kind suffering that expands our ability to give and receive love.

What is your invitation to risk being known by your wife?


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The process of getting your wife back begins with telling the truth about who you are becoming as a man.

Success means nothing if it is killing intimacy in your marriage.

This is one man’s experience after working together the last six weeks.

How would it feel to have your wife look at you again and want you?

This is your invitation to reignite the marriage God designed. If it feels like a risk to reach out then you are moving in the right direction.

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