A common sentiment I hear from the men I serve is that, “I wish she would initiate.”Brother, let’s flip that question. — Are you the type of husband that is worth initiating for? — Her initiating is less about what you perceive as her duty to the level of polarity, tension, and attraction you are bringing into the relationship. Here are your three ways to become more desirable. 1) Take the lead and plan the calendar for the family. Instead of her telling you what the plans are for the...

Earlier this summer, I let the voice of religion silence me from talking about what men really long for in marriage: meaningful, transformational sex with their wife.I pulled back because some labeled it “transactional.”But now I see clearly—this is one of the enemy’s greatest strategies: to silence voices, to distort and destroy the gift of married sex, both for pleasure and for creation. Here’s the truth: men don’t just want more sex.The sex they want is deeper than a transaction. The men I...

1. Surrender to the Lordship of Christ Daily Every marriage begins with how a man orders his own heart. Surrender isn’t a one-time prayer; it’s a daily act of humility where you lay down pride, selfish ambition, and control. When a husband wakes up and says, “Jesus, today I give You my thoughts, my actions, and my love,” he becomes anchored. A man surrendered to Christ will never lead his marriage from ego, but from the overflow of God’s love. 2. Tell the Truth About Your Fears and Feelings...