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Wholehearted Leadership is back this coming Tuesday and I'm honored to bring you five conversations at the intersection of identity, marriage, and vocation.

Lyle Wells — President of Integris Leadership, executive coach, and a guy who's been fired twice and learned to hold his purpose tightly while holding every position loosely. We talk about why life is a series of sprints, not a marathon.

Steve Cuss — Founder of Capable Life and author of Managing Leadership Anxiety. Steve helped me see why reactivity is contagious — and why the best asset any of us have to offer is a well self.

Adam Tarnow — Author of The Fog of Work and a former CPA who spent years stuck in what he calls "the valley" of middle management. His reframe changed how I think about stress: you're not the villain, you're just in a valley.

Dr. Phil Schubert — President of Abilene Christian University. This is one of the most vulnerable conversations I've hosted — about the season his identity collapsed, and the two words he heard from God that rebuilt it.

Chris DeLeenheer — Family office leader, private equity investor, and author of The Quiet Drift. Chris calls himself a "mystical entrepreneur," and his story of learning to lead — not just follow — in his marriage stuck with me for weeks.

​#145 — Heal Your Hurting Mind​
NBA psychologist Dr. Wayne Chappelle (Dr. C) on the seven wounds that wreck high-achieving men, sexual integrity in marriage, and turning trauma into growth. Raw and unfiltered.

​#137 — The Intimacy Challenge​
Jessica and I share how to resolve preferences and desires before they become conflict — and one simple practice to make sure love keeps no record of wrongs.

​#111 — The Mindful Marriage​
Ron and Nan Deal on the Pain and Peace Cycle, intentional quality time, and what maturity and humility actually look like in a marriage.

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Be Strong,

Lantz Howard

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