In today’s conversation, Jessica and I sit down to talk about preferences and negotiations in marriage. Marriage is one long dance of learning how to negotiate desires, preferences, and needs. We explore one particular area of negotiation and share how to avoid “piling on the emotional laundry.” You’ll walk away with practical ways to: Your tension is never about the thing: ie, our "thing" in the conversation was over laundry Enter difficult conversations with courage and clarity Keep no...

High-achieving men are living under the weight of shame because we’ve misplaced what it means to confess. Below is a new paradigm to help. I grew up in a church culture determined to get the pattern of the early church right. And if you didn’t, the message was clear: God was going to punish you. At the time, I didn’t realize how much that created uncertainty and anxiety in my life. But it did—spilling over into my leadership, my relationships, and even how I saw myself. This paradigm shaped...

I’ve recorded conversations with Henry Cloud, Dr. John Delony, Navy SEALs, and professional athletes—but this one was harder than I expected. We’ve been talking about doing this for over a year—sharing our own marriage with leaders who listen to the podcast. Yesterday we finally hit record. Today it’s live for you and your spouse!! The format is simple: a conversational style with tough but honest questions you can ask each other as we’re asking them too. You will unlock the emotional...