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Summer road trips, storytelling, and why it matters for your kids…
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We rolled into Graham, TX, and pulled into Allsup’s* gas station. Before the girls unbuckled, I told them, “Hold on…I pointed over to the other side of the parking lot…22 years ago, your mother pulled into that parking spot right over there…I remember what she was wearing when she got out of her Toyota Tacoma - she had a Chicago Cubs jersey shirt, shorts, and a cap. She looked stunning!” We had only met each other three weeks before, and she came to meet my family that weekend. Then the questions and curiosity begin. “Why did you meet her at the gas station?” “Back in those days…” Then you begin to explain fold-out maps, very spotty cell phone coverage, no reliable GPS, much less an iPhone. Meeting at Allsup’s was the plan to help her make it out to the house on county roads. Stories like this matter. It shows your children that your family love story matters. It teaches them that love is worth remembering. Research has shown, and narrative therapy proves that the more you know about your family history, and in particular the nuances of your parents’ love story, it will help your children build more meaningful relationships. A few quick benefits:
These stories point beyond the accomplishments and to the deeper desires of your heart. They have a way of keeping us anchored to the mundane miracle moments of life. And you should have seen the joy beaming from my wife to be caught up once again in a romance story. May you slow down and remember when… No Allsups burritos were harmed on this road trip. |
Becoming Wholehearted by Lantz Howard
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