Life's Transitions and How to Stay Connected to Your Wife


I am honored to bring you this conversation with my friend and long-time client, Hunter Clinton. Hunter is the Owner/Operator of Chick-fil-A in Anna, TX. In our conversation together, we discussed how to stay engaged with your wife even when adding a fourth child, building a team culture to be the salt and light in the community, and how your leadership evolves throughout the years if you stay committed to be a lifelong learner.

You can listen to and share this conversation with others right now.

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Your Last Date

Why do I ask about the last date night you went on with your wife, and what does that reveal about your leadership on every episode?

Whether it is a date or what Dave Munson said on a recent podcast in reference to Zig Ziglar, we should always be courting our wife.

I believe marriage is the greatest ecosystem to grow our leadership.

“Marriage has the power to set the course of your life as a whole. If your marriage is strong, even if all the circumstances in your life around you are filled with trouble and weakness, it won't matter. You will be able to move out into the world in strength.” Tim Keller

Two ideas to grow your marriage and leadership today:

  1. Be more like Hunter and schedule a weekend with your wife right now. Make it happen before the end of October.
  2. Lead her spiritually. Our roles as husbands are to lead ourselves first in union with God and allow that to overflow in helping her flourish as God designed.

Spotting the Nice Guy and Becoming Wholehearted

Behind the scenes: I made a mistake during the podcast, and the thought occurred to me to start over. Why? Because it made me look like I was not aware. This is the tendency of a recovering nice guy to look polished and without fault. I chose to keep going because at this point, if you have ever listened to one conversation, you know there are no edits. I apologized and told Hunter, "Thanks" for giving me grace. Brother, I am not perfect, you are not perfect. May we let down our guard together and embrace the process of becoming wholehearted together.

Be Strong,

Lantz Howard

Professional Coach

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