Empty Yourself to Make Her Shine


The core of building a lasting marriage is not in the grand gestures; it is in the daily willingness to empty yourself to make your wife shine.

Three ways you can do that today:



1) Honor your wife publicly with words of affirmation that point to her character.

2) Practice anticipating her desires by asking, "How can I best love you today?"

3) Surrender what you want now for what benefits her tomorrow.

Experiment with one today by cultivating a small discipline to make her radiant, not to get something in return, but by responding to God's design for a covenantal relationship to help her flourish.


Welcome! I’m Lantz Howard. I'm a professional coach, therapist, and spiritual guide.

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