Artificial Buoyancy in Marriages of CEO's


A CEO once told Mike Sharrow something that stopped him in his tracks.

“I give more money to my church than anyone else… but no one’s ever asked about my marriage.”

That line says everything about the quiet crisis among high-capacity leaders.

We’re winning in business, giving generously, and leading others—but often neglecting the first ministry God gave us: our marriage.

In my latest conversation with Mike Sharrow, CEO of C12, we unpacked why so many Christian CEOs experience what he calls “artificial buoyancy”—marriages that look stable from the outside but are slowly losing life on the inside.

We talked about:
• How C12’s spouse-included check-ins are transforming leadership health
• Why money and ministry can’t cover neglect at home
• The “Thursday at 3pm” test for real discipleship
• How to lead at home with the same intention you bring to your business

Mike said it best:

“God isn’t impressed if you build a great business and lose your first ministry.”

Listen to the full conversation here on your favorite platform.

Let’s be the kind of leaders who don’t just build great companies—but radiant marriages.

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Be Strong,

Lantz Howard

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